“I don’t care what anyone does in their bedrooms.”
This is something often uttered by misinformed “allies” of the LGBTQ community. Well-meaning, to be sure, but misinformed nonetheless. By saying you’re unaffected by what happens behind our bedroom doors misses the point completely, and once again reduces LGBTQ people to the kind of sex we are (or aren’t) having.
Speaking only for myself, I am not worried about what you think of my sex life. I am worried about when my fiancée and I can have a union legally recognized by our government. I am worried about whether or not she will have any legal rights over our future children. I am worried about those future children being bullied because of us. I am worried about who I may have to come out to today because I don’t “look like a lesbian”. I am worried about whether or not our neighbors are hostile. I am worried about expressing any kind of physical affection towards her in public. I am worried about who is around when it’s dark and we are alone and outside of the safety of our home. I am worried about “corrective rape”. I am worried about how many children are dying. I am worried about how many of my trans* sisters and brothers are dying (or in the case of CeCe McDonald, punished because she defended herself). I am worried about the homelessness which is pervasive in the LGBTQ community. I am worried about how many children are denied loving homes because we are not seen fit to parent.
These are just a few of the concerns of my community, not whether or not you approve of what we do behind closed doors. Because we are not just our sex lives.
YES!! YES!! YES!!